If you have a wedding/couple website or page online for family and friends of your own...
Please share with me. Especially if we are communicating over email or long distances. I love to see the photos and
directions for things, it's a great way to keep in touch!
Time, time & patience:
What's the key to the best and most unique wedding photos? Time, time, and more time, along with patience and
understanding for romantic formals. Give at least one hour total for brdie/groom formals. And this can be spread
throughout the entire wedding day.
Ladies: LESS shimmer is better!
Times have changed since the stories of past weddings of our parents and others. We see new products and ideas
everyday to enhance us. And although we are past the days of putting on tons of make up to stand out in the old film
cameras (with the digital world) there is a new culprit: SHINE AND GLITTERS!
Remember this, if you wear shine and glitter, you will in fact shine and glitter... A LOT! Many times with all those fun
body glitters, shine make ups and glitter hair sprays, we think we are doing something good or fun. When the truth is,
they only dramatically reflect the flash and lights that are highlighting your face. All you get in the end is large shines
spots. I then in turn have to fix those shine and glare markings on almost every photo. I don't mind some but every
photo is a bit much. I recommend to cut down those glitters and make ups enhancements that make you shine.
Lipstick is one thing, but everywhere else is another.
One source from www.sheilasfashionsense.com/beauty.htm says this:
"Makeup: 1. Keep it classic. The look that is fabulous now will look dated in a couple of years and you will wish that you
had not been so trendy. Use a matte makeup (even if shine and glitter are in) and keep the shine down. In photos,
shine will make you look sweaty and dirty."
Another source I read on Yahoo! said that glitters can actually make you look older because it sticks to any creases,
even if you don't have wrinkles yet we all have smile creases. See before and after on the enhancements page.
Want that kiss - HOLD that kiss!
Want that great ceremony kiss photo? Than don't be shy and hold that kiss a little longer. Not only will you get a louder
& longer applause, but your photographer has more of a chance to capture that kiss in that moment. Much better than
reenacting it out later on. Plus I don't think a kiss can ever be too long. Give it at least 5 seconds or kiss, stop, and kiss
one more time.
What's the rush? Anyone over the age of 7 should not run down the isle...
Unless you're really late or there is an extreme time limit where your ceremony is, then take your time walking down
the isle. I see so many bridesmaids practically running and the song barely started. Action shots are great at the
reception but weren't made for the ceremony walk. And frankly, it can look a bit silly too. Remember, show off those
dresses, they cost a lot, this is your time to shine. You also help build the intense wait for the bridal entrance! Most
importantly, it allows your photographer and/or guests to get their camera ready for the next person coming down.
This is especially true for inside or church weddings because the flash needs time to adjust to the lighting for each
person and takes a little slower time. So unless you are the bride and groom running down the isle in the opposite
direction for an early honeymoon, then walk a little slower. On the contrary, don't take too much time either (unless
you're the bride or groom). In that case it could take the attention away from the most important people. I've seen the
extremes of both, stopping... shaking hands down the isle... like a president (which I don't recommend, save the
greeting for later) and I've seen bridesmaids literally RUN down the isle and I never got one photo of them. The days of
the step-pause-march-pause are over but it doesn't mean you have to do a fast pace down the isle either. Practice a
nice slow pace and allow friends to critique you at the rehearsal. Maybe add it to your bachorlette party as one of the
games you have to complete!
2 giving away bride:
I love when there are two giving away the bride but there are a couple things to consider. Make sure there is enough
room down the isle inside a church or building to walk side-by-side. If not, I recommend spacing out dramatically
otherwise, your photos will all be of the back of the person that couldn't fit (they also could be a distraction by
accidentally step on the dress). This is true especially if you were looking for those traditional shots of the back with
the train. I've seen outside ceremonies working successfully with the wide isle.
Easiest, fastest, best way to fluff the dress:
Grab the entire train and do a big fluff like a bed sheet and leave it fall naturally. It goes down perfectly almost every
time. (With the exception of a solid heavily beaded dress, then it doesn't work, I have no easy tips for those!)
Got a really long veil? Let that baby fly:
I see the most beautiful veils and sometimes they are held down or onto so much during formal romantics that I wonder
what is the point? Pin that baby in solid and let it fly. It makes the best photos and it's just plain cool. I can see
sometimes holding it during a very strong wind but if I'm getting the wind fluffing it up, it's an amazing shot. So let go,
literally!
Runners are not always flattering:
If you want your march down the isle to really look like a march, then go for the regular cheap runner. Otherwise, do
some research. Runners can stick, slip, bunch up, look and feel terrible. I've also seen brides trip on the rocks or drag
the rocks in their dress, that were supposed to be holding it down from blowing away. I suggest do some test walks in
the same type shoes in the same setting, especially if it's going to be on grass. My advice: go without. Or if you really
want one, don't skimp and do some research first. Like this site, they look like they know what they are talking about
when it comes to runners: www.originalrunners.com
Pausing for reception intros is not necessary:
This is not a prom, it's a wedding celebration. I personally like the action look, or maybe everyone decides to do a
dance or cheer as they get introduced. Or pick up or twirl their partner. The pausing was ideal for the days when you
wanted those traditional photos or for grandma, but you don't need to stop for me. I think it can look silly for the guest
watching as well, then there is this awkward moment of everyone waiting for the photographer when the
photographer already got the shot. It's just strange, even more so for video... so no pause or stop necessary unless you
want to do a fun pose for the camera. You're DJ may ask you to, but if you have me, just tell the DJ that the
photographer doesn't want you to stop and they'll be OK with it and can even check with me if they'd like. Sometimes I
interrupt during the line up to state it, but I don't like to speak over the DJ when they are trying to do their job. If
you want to stop, that's OK too, but don't feel you need to do it on my behalf. This is also true for the ceremony.
What causes red-eye?
Teary eyes, light colored eyes and/or dark rooms where flash is needed. It mostly happens with direct flash cameras
and telephoto (long zoom) lenses. I can correct most to look natural with the programs I use.
Color accent bouquet as black and white photos:
Many like this look in the artsy enhancements that I include with all wedding packages but there are some things that
can either make them more possible or stand out more. If you choose a white bouquet, there is less to pull from and
you will have less of these artsy enhancements. If there are greens, those can be pulled out but may not pop as much
as you may imagine. Sometimes it's nice to have the ivory/greens as a subtle look but if you are looking for brighter, it's
obvious to go with brighter colors in your bouquet.
If you have long spiky leaves, trailing ivy or other materials flowing or cascading from your bouquet, you will probably
end up with less color enhancements overall because those are much harder for me to do. I actually have to outline
ever single little leaf and that takes lots of time as you can imagine. If the bouquet is wrapped tightly or is more
compact, you will probably end up with more enhancements.
I also look for other things to enhance but this is a case by case basis and not always a set thing for every wedding. It
all depends on what I see during processing after the wedding. I look for those that stand out to me as a possibility and
cannot be planned ahead of time.
Bouquet reality:
I love all bouquets just as much as the next person but the reality is, most brides get sick of their bouquet by mid-day.
Probably 8/10 times it happens - especially if they are heavy or complicated designs. I can't tell you have many photos I
have of a groomsman or the groom himself holding it for the bride from the ceremony on. I think it's funny because I
see it so often. Not that I have much advice for it, except for: keep it simple and don't ever stress much over what
bouquet you choose.
If you plan on making/showing a slideshow:
Lots of couples make their own slideshow of family or their relationship past. Which I personally LOVE. It's so personal
and brings the entire group closer allowing both sides of the family to bond. But, from experience of making slideshows
and seeing slideshows at weddings, they don't always run correctly. No matter how well they work in your home DVD,
sometimes you get it to the reception and it skips like crazy. So double check it, try a friends DVD player and a couple
other locations, primarily the location in which it will be playing if possible. Also, check with your DJ if they plan on
playing other music over the songs you may have already added or if they are using the slideshow as is.
Everyone in or involved in the wedding party should know how to do this:
Go to a florist and practice how to put on a boutonnière. Personally I think it should also be practiced at every
rehearsal. And you'd be surprised how many don't know how. I don't mind helping but I need to take the photo of it
being put on! Besides, I'm terrible at it myself and I've had lots of practice.
As strange as this sounds: be happy and be in love!
This tends to be the case more so with couples that have been together for a very long time but I've see other cases
too. I get it, it's almost like another day really, you are so comfortable with each other and satisfied that it is
something that was bound to happen and just is. But it's not just another day, it's your wedding day! The camera
reveals reality and if you are nonchalant about what is happening then your photos will show that too. Be giddy, be
happy, do the silly little things that make you a couple. Grooms can do simple things like kiss your brides hand,
forehead, intimate hugs. Brides, you can grab onto his arm, kiss his cheek, be fun and excited. Take this day to cherish
each other and absorb this moment that you have become one. No need to down-play it, this is your day.
Don't always look at the camera - for candids.
During formals and some throughout the day, it's ok to look. But not the whole wedding. Most people don't have this
problem but it does happen. Sometimes, pretend the photographer and videographer are not there.
Always look at the camera - for formal group photos - unless...
...you're the bride and groom alone for romantic shots. Or if I suggest otherwise. I've lost count of how many
people/family/friends/wedding party/bride and groom take it upon themselves to "look off into the distance" as if
they are doing a drama scene on a soap show. What? No. Unless I ask, sure. But during family group formals, it looks
strange like you're not paying attention at all. As I said, if you are just the bride and groom for romantic formals, go for
it, it can look candid and fun - after we got the main "newspaper" type photo. On the other hand, if you're the sister of
the bride, there is no reason why you should be looking off as if you see Romeo in the next room. First, it's not about
you. Second, you are looking away from the lens and it looks horrible. I don't mean to be harsh but it doesn't make any
sense. Also, I love a joke just as much as the next person. But if you goof around the entire time, there will not be one
good formal shot for the album. It's fun to goof around - after we've already covered the more serious smiley traditional
ones, then have fun. But at least let me get one or two good photos first.
Who do I look at if there are two photographers or family/friends are taking photos?
For group or formal photos always look at Holly (or main photographer) for the first couple photos unless asked
otherwise. The extra flashes don't bother me, it's the eyes, I'd like to have everyone either all looking at me at the
same time or all looking away at the same time for a side angle one. I allow turns for everyone because I understand.
The exception to this is sometimes I see a photo opp being set up by family or friends and I sneak in to take one too.
When this happens I respect the person that got it together in the first place and let them go first.
When children are in formal photos, try to look at me more than them...
...then I have a better chance of getting you all looking at me at the same time. This is especially true for the ones
that are tired and don't want to be in any more photos. I will try to get their attention or have a family member or
friend jump behind me to get their attention so always look at me and be ready and smiling. This way we are more
likely to get that shot.
Grooms, if you plan to dip, just take a second to see what side to dip:
Yes I run fast and I am prepared with all camera lens possibilities, but if you decide to do a dip or twirl or pick her up
and twirl (which I highly recommend one of those) just take a second and think about which side to go. It's best to try
to dip your bride towards the camera, otherwise I get your back & behind. I sometimes can get to the right side in
time but it's quick and not always possible, especially if your guests are on the other side and there is no room for me.
(FYI, I prefer to take photos with the crowd behind you rather than the DJ behind you, looks better). I'm not asking for
everything to be planned out, that is not possible and would look awkward but if you happen to see which side I'm on,
feel free to dip your bride, my side. Or do it twice, once for me, once for the crowd.
Wedding Party - please don't wonder off.
This goes for the wedding party and/or direct family members that are to be in the formal photos. I know it seems
obvious but it happens about 80% of the time. And I know after the ceremony, everyone is hungry, wants a drink,
wants to socialize, wants a smoke...BUT, there are important photos to be done first. It's ok to have a quick drink to
loosen up or refresh but don't take too long. I've spent over 20 minutes one time chasing people around wasting
precious photo time that we can't get back. Most of the time, since I don't know everyone, I can't find them or know
who to look for. The sooner we get them done, the sooner everyone can do what they want. If it was up to me, I'd
take all day, but usually there is a schedule. The reception has to start on time because of food, DJ, events, end of
night time limits, etc. and I've seen cases where we never got the photos that were wanted or planned. There is only
one day, one chance, lets get it done so everyone is happy. I will make it as painless as possible as long as everyone can
get together and respect the wants/needs of the bride and groom as well as the photographer. The bride and groom
are paying me to take these photos, let me do my job and it doesn't hurt to listen either. Bride/Groom: This is a great
discussion topic or maybe a group email explaining what you want before the wedding day.
Smokers? Add 10 minutes per cigarette you want to have during formal portrait time:
If you want smoke breaks during formals, I could care less (as long as it's outside) but please add the time for it! After
having a few couples that smoke I've averaged out that it takes approx. 10 minutes per cigarette, especially if both the
bride and groom both smoke. On top of that you then have most venues that are rushing to do intros so then you
literally will have no time for formals or romantics of the bride/groom/party/family. It's just a fact. I prefer at least 40
minutes for formals, so if you want two cigarettes, that's a total of an hour needed. Also add in any travel or other
locations you want to go to for photos. Another thought on smoking, I've seen smokers outside taking multiple smoke
breaks during most of their reception and they barely have any photos of them at the reception, dancing or socializing.
Again, that is completely up to you but remember that it could effect your photos and who's in them.
If you have something really unique or special, let me know:
Sometimes it's obvious but every once in a while there are some things I don't see or know about. One time I had a
bride with "I do" jeweled on the bottom of her shoes. I LOVED THIS. But I didn't find out until the end of the night
when she threw off her shoes from her tired dancing feet. Although I still got some cool photos of the shoes, if I had
known earlier, it really could have made some really cool portrait photos or picking up the bride photos or twirling with
feet out photos. I've also seen special necklaces, charms or passed on items such as veils. Things I may not know about.
This also goes for special events planned that are beyond your average wedding events, such as a special birthday cake
for a guest or an anniversary gift to the grandparents, those sorts of things can help your photographer in so many
ways.
"The camera hates me!" - No, it doesn't:
Please please don't ever say this. It's a jinx. If you tell me right off that you are not good with the camera or that you
NEVER take a good photo: Guess what? It may happen. Because it makes me nervous when you say that and bad things
produce more bad things. Don't tell me this and be yourself, I bet you'll change your mind once you see the photos
after. I never truly believe anyone when they say this anyways because everyone is beautiful in their own way and if
you don't believe me, ask your fiancé and your parents.
Use the surroundings and/or weather as a choice not a limit:
So it's pouring rain, a blizzard hits, holy crap it's too sunny! So why not use it as an advantage?
Grab an umbrella, boots, or shades honey 'cause we are making it work! Puddles make great reflections, snow fall tells a
story and the sun creates beautiful silhouettes! Don't be heartbroken, overcome it. Those open minded thoughts are
what make some of the best photos possible. You'll be glad you did.
So things aren't going as planned? Let it go:
The limo driver is late, so-n-so wore silver shoes instead of black and you planned on doing most of the photos before
the ceremony but your hair stylist ran late. Oh well. Realize that every wedding has at least one thing will not go as
planned and if it's happened once, it will happen again. Let it go and enjoy your day. Before, during and after your
wedding, no one wants to hear negative things for such a beautiful celebrated day. For all they know, it was planned
that way! And remember... nothing can start without the bride and groom. Stop traffic if you need to, it's your day!
Have a little faith in me:
Put respect and trust in your vendors and you'll get the respect back. If you tend to be a micro-manage personality,
nows the time to let go the most. You hired professionals, let them do their jobs and you will get better results that fit
you best. It's ok to show examples or list ideas upfront, but don't be so over baring that it makes the job impossible.
Have a positive attitude and be open to ideas that even you think may not work. Be surprised.
OMG it's a camera! This goes out to the guests and family:
I think it's kinda funny that if an average camera goes in front of someone, what do they do? They stop and smile! HEY -
that's a concept! Well, the same works for the professional cameras as well, stop and smile! Or get in a group and say
cheese. Have fun with it. Just because I am the main photographer... and sure I may have giant equipment at times...
it doesn't mean you have to suddenly not know what a camera does. If it's loud and I'm pointing at my camera and you
know I'm the photographer, it means I'd like to take a photo - group or otherwise. If you don't want one, that's cool,
wave me off or step out of the group. Otherwise, please don't look at me like you've never seen a camera before. It's
confusing to me and it happens at EVERY wedding. Yes it's a camera and I am there to take your photo! :)
Cutting the cake:
You'd think cutting the cake would be easy, it's cake, but it is always asked on how to do it. If you want to keep the
top of the cake, only cut the bottom so the caterers can wrap the top it up for you later. If you don't want to keep the
top than cut where ever you wish. It's just like at home, only this cake is prettier. All you do is take the knife, cut a
nice sized piece and either serve with your hands or the plate/utensils supplied. Then, it's up to you on the smashing
or not. Just remember, it always looks bad when staff or a coordinator is in photos doing it for you. I've even seen as
bad as them cutting the entire thing with the bride and groom, it was not the intimate setting like it should be.
Anyway, it's cake and it won't bite, you bite it!
Cake background:
Many cake photos you see in magazines have a special custom background and I've been to a professional photo shoot
for cakes, custom invites and bouquets with WellWed Magazine. I didn't take the photos (my sister had her bouquets
in the magazine in the NY Fall/Winter 2007 issue and I tagged along) but I paid close attention to what they did,
especially when I was helping to carry a fancy decorated hollow cake in high heels down a dirt road, that was fun. But
in any matter, they took lots of time in placement and adding things to enhance the items, taking them in many ways
and constant rearranging. So whether it is fabric that contrasts the cake or some other source of art, decoration, a
solid color or fold out of some sort, it really does make a difference. Normally I see the fake tree plants with white xmas
lights. This can work sometimes but other times it can distract from the cake rather then enhance it. Curtains can be
nice. And if you can't have a background it is neat when the cake is set up in a way you can walk around it like a
display. Then your photographer can get the room decor and/or guests in the background. Sometimes you don't have a
choice in the cake placement because the venue has safety reasons but it doesn't hurt to see what your options are.
Guarder:
I usually see the guarder on the left leg of the bride, but choose what feels most comfortable for you!
Lint rollers - a must have on hand:
This is especially for the gentlemen who have a dark colored suit or tux. You'd be surprised at what shows up on
camera. Most important for formals and not a bad idea for him to check before the ceremony either (esp with all hugs
he gets from ladies with all the glitter and make-up rubbing off on his shoulders!)
Tie-back's a beach:
Tie-back dresses give that extra oomph to custom beauty and fit but they take a little longer to get ready with. Give
an additional 30 minutes for a tie-back wedding dress and additional 15 minutes per bridesmaid dress. We all wish we
could tie it as fast as the dress fitter but that usually isn't an option, it's harder than you think! One way to speed
things up is to loosely tie the dresses ahead of time and then tighten after, make sure your tie is even too.
Running with scissors can be just as dangerous as having none at all:
The last thing we ever want to see is a poor bride suffering with a large rip or snag because she had to pull a tag out
with her bare hands! Don't let this happen to you! Usually there are tags and/or small threads that need to be cut
during getting ready. I try to remember to have mini scissors on me but it seems like Murphy's law always steps in.
Every time I have them on me, they are not needed and every time I don't, it feels like no one on earth has scissors or
nail clippers. So add a small pair in your bridal emergency kit and have them just in case.
Sun & Shade:
When outside during your event, it is always best to avoid extreme sun conditions unless we are doing creative artsy
photos. Standard formals should be done in the shade, regardless of whether you want a certain background or not. If
the sun is shining too bright in that area, I will be open to try some there for you but I will also move you to a shaded
spot that may not have the background you had you in mind. If you insist on the sun anyway I will do them there, just
be aware that your photos may be very bright on the entire face or half the face with half dark. I will do my best in
manual settings and camera filters as needed but I recommend the direct sun be avoided for a more natural look. I
realize sometimes this is unavoidable and I will work with it as I always have. One way to find out how the sun may sit
is to go to your venue ahead of time at the same time (ideally the same time of year if your planning ahead of time)
and see where the sun shines, what tree shade is available and also check inside to see if it shines in the windows too
bright. This creates what is called "backlight" which means the subjects are too dark with the background too bright,
creating a silhouette effect (cool sometimes but not always). You may end up changing seating for you and your guests
for the ceremony and/or reception. If you have a gazebo during the ceremony, you don't have to worry but if you are
free standing, it's just something to keep in mind.
If you are concerned about the sun shining in too bright through the windows, talk to the venue and see what options
are available. But most importantly as the bride and groom, try not to seat yourself with your backs too it, maybe more
from the side. And finally if it's not avoidable inside, I can work with different angles and direct flash to correct it on
my part.
Vintage buildings and churches are really, well, vintage:
It took me a moment to realize it wasn't me, it wasn't the lens, it wasn't the subjects, it wasn't the cropping. Was I
seeing things or was I having bad perspective eye sight day? Nope, it's the building. Some buildings are crooked!
Mantles especially get me every time. Some chapels and churches are so old they may have been remodeled and just
aren't exactly as straight as they used to be. As your photographer I make sure during photographing or processing that
the majority of your photos will be straight (unless I purposely tilt for creativity). But some things cannot be fixed
easily, like crooked backgrounds.
Heels on decks & grass:
When wearing heels on decks or grass, yes ladies, you will have to tip toe to get around so you don't get stuck, dirty
scraped up heels, or all three. Some don't mind, some do, so just a heads up.
My opinion on the taller-than-groom-bride and heels:
If the bride is taller than the groom with or without heels, that's ok, then there is no choice and that's who you are.
We can try different ways and set ups if it bothers you. If the bride has a choice and the heels make the difference -
from a photographer stand point I say go with flats, hands down. At least during the ceremony and formal portraits.
Candles are cool but they are also hot:
Three bad experiences. 1. Candles lining around a stone floor area for ceremony, burned the edge of a bridesmaid's
flowing dress bottom. 2. Candles on very narrow window sills in a small chapel with narrow side isles, caught a woman's
hair on fire. 3. Candles at a reception as table decor with too many other decor items, the table number made of thick
paper caught on fire. Same type of thing happened before where the flowers kept catching on fire. Throughout the
entire reception night I watched the groom running over to different tables putting the flowers out. Not exactly fun
stuff. Candles can be very beautiful in the right safe setting. Just think about it first, that's all.
Planner and/or coordinator needed discussion:
Some, not all, planners/coordinators get in the photos. Most of the time I'm not sure if they realize or not. If they are
hired professionals that only do planning for a living, they tend to be very good about being out of the photos. But
regardless it would be a good idea to get a sense of where they might be standing during each event in regards to the
background of your photos. Obviously they need to do their job too and this can't always be avoided. But some ideas
may be during the ceremony, they can hide around a corner; during the introductions, they can stand on an opposite
side of where I'm aiming or behind me or behind the line up and hide behind the door when the bride/groom get
introduced. And sometimes, even when they think they are out of the way, they are still in the images where I've used
the wide angle lens. Here are some wedding planners that are awesome about photos: weddingplanningplus.net
On-lookers and bathing beauties:
Keep in mind that if you have your wedding at a public place, park, golf course or beach, you will have public people in
some photo backgrounds. As much as photographers try to avoid, people may still be there trying to get a good look at
the beautiful bride! Sometimes with nearby beaches, bathing beauties (attractive or not) will be there and most don't
move either. In fact, most spectators decide to stand up and get closer, sad but true! In all these cases, because it's a
public place, it is illegal for vendors to ask the public (or in some cases customers) to move because they have just as
much a right to be there as you and we are told not to ask. This may not change your plans much, but look around how
your event will be set up or where you would like your formal photos taken and check out were people hang out
compared to your view. And lastly, just be aware and understanding that they may end up being in your background
anyway you look at it.
Seeing spots?
No, not from the camera flash - from the DJ lights! Sometimes the DJ lights cause odd color spots on the reception
dance area photos. I don't mind it, sometimes it can actually add to creativity. But I've also seen them block out
complete faces. Just be aware that most of the time my flash can overpower but sometimes it cannot. So if you see a
green and pink spot on your dress, it's probably because they were really there! Temporarily at least.
Check local events:
If there is a parade on your wedding day, guests may be late. It's good to know if there is an event going on beyond
yours, proms, festivals, etc. Not that it can change much, but it is good to know during planning and setting times. It
can also create booking problems with some vendors, such as limo availabilities during prom season.
Another example is I once had a wedding where we planned on formal photos by a local river but we couldn't get
through because there was an art festival along the edge of the river. We eventually made it there farther up and
adjusted but it was a task getting through.
Also, if you are planning way in advance, keep checking periodically throughout the year as things may be added or
changed, along with rain dates. Don't let it stress you out because not everything can be perfectly planned out either,
just be open to some adjustments.
You only wear it once:
If I could convince every bride in the world to let go of the stress of your dress getting dirty on your wedding day, I
think we all would be a happier place. There are so many more positives than negatives in letting go. It makes better
photos, there are no forehead worry wrinkles involved and I think your groom would even be impressed and relaxed
more too. Next time you see a magazine photo of one that you really like, look at what they are doing. Are they sitting
on mossy rocks, standing on a sandy beaches, walking in a field of tall growth, standing on or by a wet stream, kicking
leaves that have fallen or leaning against a dirty wall or tree? Yeah probably. Would you do that? Consider it. Beauty is
pain. Unless it's grease and major mud, it won't hurt you or the dress as you might think, if anything it adds character
and creates unique memories. Besides, isn't that what your paying the dry cleaning for? The only exception to this is if
you are doing formals before the ceremony, then I could see making a fuss and avoiding some things. Otherwise, let go
and get the results you want. You only wear it once so be open to getting those dreamy fun photos and bring a pair of
boots just in case. In the meantime, guess I'll just have to save it for a "dirty my dress" photo session (based on
trashthedress.com).
The common sense things that are often forgotten:
Most important day of your life but not the only day of your life:
I always like reading the intro's of other wedding photography sites. I'm sorry but some are so cheezy, not real life, at
times too salesman-like and rehearsed. If it hasn't been said a million times—at least a hundred. And if that works for
you great, but not for me, my priorities are different. This world has taught me a very hard lesson, especially being in
such a fantasy type business. The lesson is called: Reality. It always gets in the way of our life plans. Just like anything,
material objects do not last forever, things like Hurricane Katrina could hit at any moment and you could lose
everything. Which brings me to the point I'm making. Yes, I agree, it's one of the most important days of your life and
yes, your photos will be passed on for generations and yes, I am honored to capture your day. But it's also not the only
day of your life. You may go on to a honeymoon, have babies, buy a house... who knows where your path in life will
lead you! It's exciting! So remember, I'm not here to put up fake salesmanship, I'm here to capture just one of the most
important days of your life. I am there to capture that smile on your grandma as she gives you love advice; that proud
face of your father as he lets his child go; those tears from your fiancé that don't happen that often; the silly dance
moves of your brother; those are the moments.
In the end, I hope you enjoy your photos but what I hope for the most is that your love for each other outlasts any
piece of paper, glossy or matte.
Understand what you truly want:
Of course I want you to hire me because if the shoe fits, wear it! But if not, why suffer? It sounds great, the price fits,
you like some of the photos... but would you rather have a more traditional approach or maybe an all candid approach?
If so, in what areas? All, some, none? How important are the traditionals to you? These are all good questions—before
your wedding! I tend to see a certain age bracket, 40 and above (not all but most) wanting a more traditional approach
in photography. That's OK to know what you want, but make sure you really know, listen and see what your
photographer offers; how they react to your thoughts and really take in their style. Some couples know right off with
no questions asked, 100% sure. On the other hand, if you aren't sure and it's not your taste, you may want to consider
other options. I don't care if it's your best friend offering to photograph your wedding. If you don't like it now, you
won't like it after. If you are open to new things, go ahead - try it, but don't expect all traditional shots when you hire
an artistic photojournalist! Do your research. Know what the term candid and traditionally posed really mean and don't
be afraid to ask what they mean to your photographer. Photographers usually cover all the traditional events but there
are different approaches, like, do you want the straight on ready for the photo look (if so, be aware and ready for the
camera) or do you want in the moment reality as it happened (if so, ignore me)? I've had some say ahead of time they
wanted all candids, then after their wedding, they asked to see all the traditional posed photos. I had very little to
offer. At another wedding, I did more traditional photos and got told to stop and only take candids. Those are mixed
signals and your photographer needs to know for sure what you want. And sometimes, it's just not a match no matter
how you picture it.
My photographer wish list:
More tips & tricks:
Always on-going, so more coming soon!
Please share with me. Especially if we are communicating over email or long distances. I love to see the photos and
directions for things, it's a great way to keep in touch!
Time, time & patience:
What's the key to the best and most unique wedding photos? Time, time, and more time, along with patience and
understanding for romantic formals. Give at least one hour total for brdie/groom formals. And this can be spread
throughout the entire wedding day.
Ladies: LESS shimmer is better!
Times have changed since the stories of past weddings of our parents and others. We see new products and ideas
everyday to enhance us. And although we are past the days of putting on tons of make up to stand out in the old film
cameras (with the digital world) there is a new culprit: SHINE AND GLITTERS!
Remember this, if you wear shine and glitter, you will in fact shine and glitter... A LOT! Many times with all those fun
body glitters, shine make ups and glitter hair sprays, we think we are doing something good or fun. When the truth is,
they only dramatically reflect the flash and lights that are highlighting your face. All you get in the end is large shines
spots. I then in turn have to fix those shine and glare markings on almost every photo. I don't mind some but every
photo is a bit much. I recommend to cut down those glitters and make ups enhancements that make you shine.
Lipstick is one thing, but everywhere else is another.
One source from www.sheilasfashionsense.com/beauty.htm says this:
"Makeup: 1. Keep it classic. The look that is fabulous now will look dated in a couple of years and you will wish that you
had not been so trendy. Use a matte makeup (even if shine and glitter are in) and keep the shine down. In photos,
shine will make you look sweaty and dirty."
Another source I read on Yahoo! said that glitters can actually make you look older because it sticks to any creases,
even if you don't have wrinkles yet we all have smile creases. See before and after on the enhancements page.
Want that kiss - HOLD that kiss!
Want that great ceremony kiss photo? Than don't be shy and hold that kiss a little longer. Not only will you get a louder
& longer applause, but your photographer has more of a chance to capture that kiss in that moment. Much better than
reenacting it out later on. Plus I don't think a kiss can ever be too long. Give it at least 5 seconds or kiss, stop, and kiss
one more time.
What's the rush? Anyone over the age of 7 should not run down the isle...
Unless you're really late or there is an extreme time limit where your ceremony is, then take your time walking down
the isle. I see so many bridesmaids practically running and the song barely started. Action shots are great at the
reception but weren't made for the ceremony walk. And frankly, it can look a bit silly too. Remember, show off those
dresses, they cost a lot, this is your time to shine. You also help build the intense wait for the bridal entrance! Most
importantly, it allows your photographer and/or guests to get their camera ready for the next person coming down.
This is especially true for inside or church weddings because the flash needs time to adjust to the lighting for each
person and takes a little slower time. So unless you are the bride and groom running down the isle in the opposite
direction for an early honeymoon, then walk a little slower. On the contrary, don't take too much time either (unless
you're the bride or groom). In that case it could take the attention away from the most important people. I've seen the
extremes of both, stopping... shaking hands down the isle... like a president (which I don't recommend, save the
greeting for later) and I've seen bridesmaids literally RUN down the isle and I never got one photo of them. The days of
the step-pause-march-pause are over but it doesn't mean you have to do a fast pace down the isle either. Practice a
nice slow pace and allow friends to critique you at the rehearsal. Maybe add it to your bachorlette party as one of the
games you have to complete!
2 giving away bride:
I love when there are two giving away the bride but there are a couple things to consider. Make sure there is enough
room down the isle inside a church or building to walk side-by-side. If not, I recommend spacing out dramatically
otherwise, your photos will all be of the back of the person that couldn't fit (they also could be a distraction by
accidentally step on the dress). This is true especially if you were looking for those traditional shots of the back with
the train. I've seen outside ceremonies working successfully with the wide isle.
Easiest, fastest, best way to fluff the dress:
Grab the entire train and do a big fluff like a bed sheet and leave it fall naturally. It goes down perfectly almost every
time. (With the exception of a solid heavily beaded dress, then it doesn't work, I have no easy tips for those!)
Got a really long veil? Let that baby fly:
I see the most beautiful veils and sometimes they are held down or onto so much during formal romantics that I wonder
what is the point? Pin that baby in solid and let it fly. It makes the best photos and it's just plain cool. I can see
sometimes holding it during a very strong wind but if I'm getting the wind fluffing it up, it's an amazing shot. So let go,
literally!
Runners are not always flattering:
If you want your march down the isle to really look like a march, then go for the regular cheap runner. Otherwise, do
some research. Runners can stick, slip, bunch up, look and feel terrible. I've also seen brides trip on the rocks or drag
the rocks in their dress, that were supposed to be holding it down from blowing away. I suggest do some test walks in
the same type shoes in the same setting, especially if it's going to be on grass. My advice: go without. Or if you really
want one, don't skimp and do some research first. Like this site, they look like they know what they are talking about
when it comes to runners: www.originalrunners.com
Pausing for reception intros is not necessary:
This is not a prom, it's a wedding celebration. I personally like the action look, or maybe everyone decides to do a
dance or cheer as they get introduced. Or pick up or twirl their partner. The pausing was ideal for the days when you
wanted those traditional photos or for grandma, but you don't need to stop for me. I think it can look silly for the guest
watching as well, then there is this awkward moment of everyone waiting for the photographer when the
photographer already got the shot. It's just strange, even more so for video... so no pause or stop necessary unless you
want to do a fun pose for the camera. You're DJ may ask you to, but if you have me, just tell the DJ that the
photographer doesn't want you to stop and they'll be OK with it and can even check with me if they'd like. Sometimes I
interrupt during the line up to state it, but I don't like to speak over the DJ when they are trying to do their job. If
you want to stop, that's OK too, but don't feel you need to do it on my behalf. This is also true for the ceremony.
What causes red-eye?
Teary eyes, light colored eyes and/or dark rooms where flash is needed. It mostly happens with direct flash cameras
and telephoto (long zoom) lenses. I can correct most to look natural with the programs I use.
Color accent bouquet as black and white photos:
Many like this look in the artsy enhancements that I include with all wedding packages but there are some things that
can either make them more possible or stand out more. If you choose a white bouquet, there is less to pull from and
you will have less of these artsy enhancements. If there are greens, those can be pulled out but may not pop as much
as you may imagine. Sometimes it's nice to have the ivory/greens as a subtle look but if you are looking for brighter, it's
obvious to go with brighter colors in your bouquet.
If you have long spiky leaves, trailing ivy or other materials flowing or cascading from your bouquet, you will probably
end up with less color enhancements overall because those are much harder for me to do. I actually have to outline
ever single little leaf and that takes lots of time as you can imagine. If the bouquet is wrapped tightly or is more
compact, you will probably end up with more enhancements.
I also look for other things to enhance but this is a case by case basis and not always a set thing for every wedding. It
all depends on what I see during processing after the wedding. I look for those that stand out to me as a possibility and
cannot be planned ahead of time.
Bouquet reality:
I love all bouquets just as much as the next person but the reality is, most brides get sick of their bouquet by mid-day.
Probably 8/10 times it happens - especially if they are heavy or complicated designs. I can't tell you have many photos I
have of a groomsman or the groom himself holding it for the bride from the ceremony on. I think it's funny because I
see it so often. Not that I have much advice for it, except for: keep it simple and don't ever stress much over what
bouquet you choose.
If you plan on making/showing a slideshow:
Lots of couples make their own slideshow of family or their relationship past. Which I personally LOVE. It's so personal
and brings the entire group closer allowing both sides of the family to bond. But, from experience of making slideshows
and seeing slideshows at weddings, they don't always run correctly. No matter how well they work in your home DVD,
sometimes you get it to the reception and it skips like crazy. So double check it, try a friends DVD player and a couple
other locations, primarily the location in which it will be playing if possible. Also, check with your DJ if they plan on
playing other music over the songs you may have already added or if they are using the slideshow as is.
Everyone in or involved in the wedding party should know how to do this:
Go to a florist and practice how to put on a boutonnière. Personally I think it should also be practiced at every
rehearsal. And you'd be surprised how many don't know how. I don't mind helping but I need to take the photo of it
being put on! Besides, I'm terrible at it myself and I've had lots of practice.
As strange as this sounds: be happy and be in love!
This tends to be the case more so with couples that have been together for a very long time but I've see other cases
too. I get it, it's almost like another day really, you are so comfortable with each other and satisfied that it is
something that was bound to happen and just is. But it's not just another day, it's your wedding day! The camera
reveals reality and if you are nonchalant about what is happening then your photos will show that too. Be giddy, be
happy, do the silly little things that make you a couple. Grooms can do simple things like kiss your brides hand,
forehead, intimate hugs. Brides, you can grab onto his arm, kiss his cheek, be fun and excited. Take this day to cherish
each other and absorb this moment that you have become one. No need to down-play it, this is your day.
Don't always look at the camera - for candids.
During formals and some throughout the day, it's ok to look. But not the whole wedding. Most people don't have this
problem but it does happen. Sometimes, pretend the photographer and videographer are not there.
Always look at the camera - for formal group photos - unless...
...you're the bride and groom alone for romantic shots. Or if I suggest otherwise. I've lost count of how many
people/family/friends/wedding party/bride and groom take it upon themselves to "look off into the distance" as if
they are doing a drama scene on a soap show. What? No. Unless I ask, sure. But during family group formals, it looks
strange like you're not paying attention at all. As I said, if you are just the bride and groom for romantic formals, go for
it, it can look candid and fun - after we got the main "newspaper" type photo. On the other hand, if you're the sister of
the bride, there is no reason why you should be looking off as if you see Romeo in the next room. First, it's not about
you. Second, you are looking away from the lens and it looks horrible. I don't mean to be harsh but it doesn't make any
sense. Also, I love a joke just as much as the next person. But if you goof around the entire time, there will not be one
good formal shot for the album. It's fun to goof around - after we've already covered the more serious smiley traditional
ones, then have fun. But at least let me get one or two good photos first.
Who do I look at if there are two photographers or family/friends are taking photos?
For group or formal photos always look at Holly (or main photographer) for the first couple photos unless asked
otherwise. The extra flashes don't bother me, it's the eyes, I'd like to have everyone either all looking at me at the
same time or all looking away at the same time for a side angle one. I allow turns for everyone because I understand.
The exception to this is sometimes I see a photo opp being set up by family or friends and I sneak in to take one too.
When this happens I respect the person that got it together in the first place and let them go first.
When children are in formal photos, try to look at me more than them...
...then I have a better chance of getting you all looking at me at the same time. This is especially true for the ones
that are tired and don't want to be in any more photos. I will try to get their attention or have a family member or
friend jump behind me to get their attention so always look at me and be ready and smiling. This way we are more
likely to get that shot.
Grooms, if you plan to dip, just take a second to see what side to dip:
Yes I run fast and I am prepared with all camera lens possibilities, but if you decide to do a dip or twirl or pick her up
and twirl (which I highly recommend one of those) just take a second and think about which side to go. It's best to try
to dip your bride towards the camera, otherwise I get your back & behind. I sometimes can get to the right side in
time but it's quick and not always possible, especially if your guests are on the other side and there is no room for me.
(FYI, I prefer to take photos with the crowd behind you rather than the DJ behind you, looks better). I'm not asking for
everything to be planned out, that is not possible and would look awkward but if you happen to see which side I'm on,
feel free to dip your bride, my side. Or do it twice, once for me, once for the crowd.
Wedding Party - please don't wonder off.
This goes for the wedding party and/or direct family members that are to be in the formal photos. I know it seems
obvious but it happens about 80% of the time. And I know after the ceremony, everyone is hungry, wants a drink,
wants to socialize, wants a smoke...BUT, there are important photos to be done first. It's ok to have a quick drink to
loosen up or refresh but don't take too long. I've spent over 20 minutes one time chasing people around wasting
precious photo time that we can't get back. Most of the time, since I don't know everyone, I can't find them or know
who to look for. The sooner we get them done, the sooner everyone can do what they want. If it was up to me, I'd
take all day, but usually there is a schedule. The reception has to start on time because of food, DJ, events, end of
night time limits, etc. and I've seen cases where we never got the photos that were wanted or planned. There is only
one day, one chance, lets get it done so everyone is happy. I will make it as painless as possible as long as everyone can
get together and respect the wants/needs of the bride and groom as well as the photographer. The bride and groom
are paying me to take these photos, let me do my job and it doesn't hurt to listen either. Bride/Groom: This is a great
discussion topic or maybe a group email explaining what you want before the wedding day.
Smokers? Add 10 minutes per cigarette you want to have during formal portrait time:
If you want smoke breaks during formals, I could care less (as long as it's outside) but please add the time for it! After
having a few couples that smoke I've averaged out that it takes approx. 10 minutes per cigarette, especially if both the
bride and groom both smoke. On top of that you then have most venues that are rushing to do intros so then you
literally will have no time for formals or romantics of the bride/groom/party/family. It's just a fact. I prefer at least 40
minutes for formals, so if you want two cigarettes, that's a total of an hour needed. Also add in any travel or other
locations you want to go to for photos. Another thought on smoking, I've seen smokers outside taking multiple smoke
breaks during most of their reception and they barely have any photos of them at the reception, dancing or socializing.
Again, that is completely up to you but remember that it could effect your photos and who's in them.
If you have something really unique or special, let me know:
Sometimes it's obvious but every once in a while there are some things I don't see or know about. One time I had a
bride with "I do" jeweled on the bottom of her shoes. I LOVED THIS. But I didn't find out until the end of the night
when she threw off her shoes from her tired dancing feet. Although I still got some cool photos of the shoes, if I had
known earlier, it really could have made some really cool portrait photos or picking up the bride photos or twirling with
feet out photos. I've also seen special necklaces, charms or passed on items such as veils. Things I may not know about.
This also goes for special events planned that are beyond your average wedding events, such as a special birthday cake
for a guest or an anniversary gift to the grandparents, those sorts of things can help your photographer in so many
ways.
"The camera hates me!" - No, it doesn't:
Please please don't ever say this. It's a jinx. If you tell me right off that you are not good with the camera or that you
NEVER take a good photo: Guess what? It may happen. Because it makes me nervous when you say that and bad things
produce more bad things. Don't tell me this and be yourself, I bet you'll change your mind once you see the photos
after. I never truly believe anyone when they say this anyways because everyone is beautiful in their own way and if
you don't believe me, ask your fiancé and your parents.
Use the surroundings and/or weather as a choice not a limit:
So it's pouring rain, a blizzard hits, holy crap it's too sunny! So why not use it as an advantage?
Grab an umbrella, boots, or shades honey 'cause we are making it work! Puddles make great reflections, snow fall tells a
story and the sun creates beautiful silhouettes! Don't be heartbroken, overcome it. Those open minded thoughts are
what make some of the best photos possible. You'll be glad you did.
So things aren't going as planned? Let it go:
The limo driver is late, so-n-so wore silver shoes instead of black and you planned on doing most of the photos before
the ceremony but your hair stylist ran late. Oh well. Realize that every wedding has at least one thing will not go as
planned and if it's happened once, it will happen again. Let it go and enjoy your day. Before, during and after your
wedding, no one wants to hear negative things for such a beautiful celebrated day. For all they know, it was planned
that way! And remember... nothing can start without the bride and groom. Stop traffic if you need to, it's your day!
Have a little faith in me:
Put respect and trust in your vendors and you'll get the respect back. If you tend to be a micro-manage personality,
nows the time to let go the most. You hired professionals, let them do their jobs and you will get better results that fit
you best. It's ok to show examples or list ideas upfront, but don't be so over baring that it makes the job impossible.
Have a positive attitude and be open to ideas that even you think may not work. Be surprised.
OMG it's a camera! This goes out to the guests and family:
I think it's kinda funny that if an average camera goes in front of someone, what do they do? They stop and smile! HEY -
that's a concept! Well, the same works for the professional cameras as well, stop and smile! Or get in a group and say
cheese. Have fun with it. Just because I am the main photographer... and sure I may have giant equipment at times...
it doesn't mean you have to suddenly not know what a camera does. If it's loud and I'm pointing at my camera and you
know I'm the photographer, it means I'd like to take a photo - group or otherwise. If you don't want one, that's cool,
wave me off or step out of the group. Otherwise, please don't look at me like you've never seen a camera before. It's
confusing to me and it happens at EVERY wedding. Yes it's a camera and I am there to take your photo! :)
Cutting the cake:
You'd think cutting the cake would be easy, it's cake, but it is always asked on how to do it. If you want to keep the
top of the cake, only cut the bottom so the caterers can wrap the top it up for you later. If you don't want to keep the
top than cut where ever you wish. It's just like at home, only this cake is prettier. All you do is take the knife, cut a
nice sized piece and either serve with your hands or the plate/utensils supplied. Then, it's up to you on the smashing
or not. Just remember, it always looks bad when staff or a coordinator is in photos doing it for you. I've even seen as
bad as them cutting the entire thing with the bride and groom, it was not the intimate setting like it should be.
Anyway, it's cake and it won't bite, you bite it!
Cake background:
Many cake photos you see in magazines have a special custom background and I've been to a professional photo shoot
for cakes, custom invites and bouquets with WellWed Magazine. I didn't take the photos (my sister had her bouquets
in the magazine in the NY Fall/Winter 2007 issue and I tagged along) but I paid close attention to what they did,
especially when I was helping to carry a fancy decorated hollow cake in high heels down a dirt road, that was fun. But
in any matter, they took lots of time in placement and adding things to enhance the items, taking them in many ways
and constant rearranging. So whether it is fabric that contrasts the cake or some other source of art, decoration, a
solid color or fold out of some sort, it really does make a difference. Normally I see the fake tree plants with white xmas
lights. This can work sometimes but other times it can distract from the cake rather then enhance it. Curtains can be
nice. And if you can't have a background it is neat when the cake is set up in a way you can walk around it like a
display. Then your photographer can get the room decor and/or guests in the background. Sometimes you don't have a
choice in the cake placement because the venue has safety reasons but it doesn't hurt to see what your options are.
Guarder:
I usually see the guarder on the left leg of the bride, but choose what feels most comfortable for you!
Lint rollers - a must have on hand:
This is especially for the gentlemen who have a dark colored suit or tux. You'd be surprised at what shows up on
camera. Most important for formals and not a bad idea for him to check before the ceremony either (esp with all hugs
he gets from ladies with all the glitter and make-up rubbing off on his shoulders!)
Tie-back's a beach:
Tie-back dresses give that extra oomph to custom beauty and fit but they take a little longer to get ready with. Give
an additional 30 minutes for a tie-back wedding dress and additional 15 minutes per bridesmaid dress. We all wish we
could tie it as fast as the dress fitter but that usually isn't an option, it's harder than you think! One way to speed
things up is to loosely tie the dresses ahead of time and then tighten after, make sure your tie is even too.
Running with scissors can be just as dangerous as having none at all:
The last thing we ever want to see is a poor bride suffering with a large rip or snag because she had to pull a tag out
with her bare hands! Don't let this happen to you! Usually there are tags and/or small threads that need to be cut
during getting ready. I try to remember to have mini scissors on me but it seems like Murphy's law always steps in.
Every time I have them on me, they are not needed and every time I don't, it feels like no one on earth has scissors or
nail clippers. So add a small pair in your bridal emergency kit and have them just in case.
Sun & Shade:
When outside during your event, it is always best to avoid extreme sun conditions unless we are doing creative artsy
photos. Standard formals should be done in the shade, regardless of whether you want a certain background or not. If
the sun is shining too bright in that area, I will be open to try some there for you but I will also move you to a shaded
spot that may not have the background you had you in mind. If you insist on the sun anyway I will do them there, just
be aware that your photos may be very bright on the entire face or half the face with half dark. I will do my best in
manual settings and camera filters as needed but I recommend the direct sun be avoided for a more natural look. I
realize sometimes this is unavoidable and I will work with it as I always have. One way to find out how the sun may sit
is to go to your venue ahead of time at the same time (ideally the same time of year if your planning ahead of time)
and see where the sun shines, what tree shade is available and also check inside to see if it shines in the windows too
bright. This creates what is called "backlight" which means the subjects are too dark with the background too bright,
creating a silhouette effect (cool sometimes but not always). You may end up changing seating for you and your guests
for the ceremony and/or reception. If you have a gazebo during the ceremony, you don't have to worry but if you are
free standing, it's just something to keep in mind.
If you are concerned about the sun shining in too bright through the windows, talk to the venue and see what options
are available. But most importantly as the bride and groom, try not to seat yourself with your backs too it, maybe more
from the side. And finally if it's not avoidable inside, I can work with different angles and direct flash to correct it on
my part.
Vintage buildings and churches are really, well, vintage:
It took me a moment to realize it wasn't me, it wasn't the lens, it wasn't the subjects, it wasn't the cropping. Was I
seeing things or was I having bad perspective eye sight day? Nope, it's the building. Some buildings are crooked!
Mantles especially get me every time. Some chapels and churches are so old they may have been remodeled and just
aren't exactly as straight as they used to be. As your photographer I make sure during photographing or processing that
the majority of your photos will be straight (unless I purposely tilt for creativity). But some things cannot be fixed
easily, like crooked backgrounds.
Heels on decks & grass:
When wearing heels on decks or grass, yes ladies, you will have to tip toe to get around so you don't get stuck, dirty
scraped up heels, or all three. Some don't mind, some do, so just a heads up.
My opinion on the taller-than-groom-bride and heels:
If the bride is taller than the groom with or without heels, that's ok, then there is no choice and that's who you are.
We can try different ways and set ups if it bothers you. If the bride has a choice and the heels make the difference -
from a photographer stand point I say go with flats, hands down. At least during the ceremony and formal portraits.
Candles are cool but they are also hot:
Three bad experiences. 1. Candles lining around a stone floor area for ceremony, burned the edge of a bridesmaid's
flowing dress bottom. 2. Candles on very narrow window sills in a small chapel with narrow side isles, caught a woman's
hair on fire. 3. Candles at a reception as table decor with too many other decor items, the table number made of thick
paper caught on fire. Same type of thing happened before where the flowers kept catching on fire. Throughout the
entire reception night I watched the groom running over to different tables putting the flowers out. Not exactly fun
stuff. Candles can be very beautiful in the right safe setting. Just think about it first, that's all.
Planner and/or coordinator needed discussion:
Some, not all, planners/coordinators get in the photos. Most of the time I'm not sure if they realize or not. If they are
hired professionals that only do planning for a living, they tend to be very good about being out of the photos. But
regardless it would be a good idea to get a sense of where they might be standing during each event in regards to the
background of your photos. Obviously they need to do their job too and this can't always be avoided. But some ideas
may be during the ceremony, they can hide around a corner; during the introductions, they can stand on an opposite
side of where I'm aiming or behind me or behind the line up and hide behind the door when the bride/groom get
introduced. And sometimes, even when they think they are out of the way, they are still in the images where I've used
the wide angle lens. Here are some wedding planners that are awesome about photos: weddingplanningplus.net
On-lookers and bathing beauties:
Keep in mind that if you have your wedding at a public place, park, golf course or beach, you will have public people in
some photo backgrounds. As much as photographers try to avoid, people may still be there trying to get a good look at
the beautiful bride! Sometimes with nearby beaches, bathing beauties (attractive or not) will be there and most don't
move either. In fact, most spectators decide to stand up and get closer, sad but true! In all these cases, because it's a
public place, it is illegal for vendors to ask the public (or in some cases customers) to move because they have just as
much a right to be there as you and we are told not to ask. This may not change your plans much, but look around how
your event will be set up or where you would like your formal photos taken and check out were people hang out
compared to your view. And lastly, just be aware and understanding that they may end up being in your background
anyway you look at it.
Seeing spots?
No, not from the camera flash - from the DJ lights! Sometimes the DJ lights cause odd color spots on the reception
dance area photos. I don't mind it, sometimes it can actually add to creativity. But I've also seen them block out
complete faces. Just be aware that most of the time my flash can overpower but sometimes it cannot. So if you see a
green and pink spot on your dress, it's probably because they were really there! Temporarily at least.
Check local events:
If there is a parade on your wedding day, guests may be late. It's good to know if there is an event going on beyond
yours, proms, festivals, etc. Not that it can change much, but it is good to know during planning and setting times. It
can also create booking problems with some vendors, such as limo availabilities during prom season.
Another example is I once had a wedding where we planned on formal photos by a local river but we couldn't get
through because there was an art festival along the edge of the river. We eventually made it there farther up and
adjusted but it was a task getting through.
Also, if you are planning way in advance, keep checking periodically throughout the year as things may be added or
changed, along with rain dates. Don't let it stress you out because not everything can be perfectly planned out either,
just be open to some adjustments.
You only wear it once:
If I could convince every bride in the world to let go of the stress of your dress getting dirty on your wedding day, I
think we all would be a happier place. There are so many more positives than negatives in letting go. It makes better
photos, there are no forehead worry wrinkles involved and I think your groom would even be impressed and relaxed
more too. Next time you see a magazine photo of one that you really like, look at what they are doing. Are they sitting
on mossy rocks, standing on a sandy beaches, walking in a field of tall growth, standing on or by a wet stream, kicking
leaves that have fallen or leaning against a dirty wall or tree? Yeah probably. Would you do that? Consider it. Beauty is
pain. Unless it's grease and major mud, it won't hurt you or the dress as you might think, if anything it adds character
and creates unique memories. Besides, isn't that what your paying the dry cleaning for? The only exception to this is if
you are doing formals before the ceremony, then I could see making a fuss and avoiding some things. Otherwise, let go
and get the results you want. You only wear it once so be open to getting those dreamy fun photos and bring a pair of
boots just in case. In the meantime, guess I'll just have to save it for a "dirty my dress" photo session (based on
trashthedress.com).
The common sense things that are often forgotten:
- I know sometimes it can be hard to be yourself on your wedding day, nerves, lots of commotion, but remember
that your feelings and attitude show in photos. Relax, stop to take in moments... smile and breathe. Have fun! - If you don't get on the dance floor and dance, then you won't have those dance photos you may have imagined.
- If you make the extra time for formal romantics, the more relaxed you will feel and the better results too.
- Stop worrying about those things that you can't change like double chin possibilities, acne, teeth problems, or
the slight chance of back fat, what ever it may be, and just live in the moment. Most of what we think we feel is
exaggerated about ourselves anyway, we are our own worst critic. And hey, they are marrying you for who you
are, not for what you think you should be. - Natural open smiles always work best. Think of something that makes you smile or whisper sweet nothings to
each other, that'll get you grinning!
Most important day of your life but not the only day of your life:
I always like reading the intro's of other wedding photography sites. I'm sorry but some are so cheezy, not real life, at
times too salesman-like and rehearsed. If it hasn't been said a million times—at least a hundred. And if that works for
you great, but not for me, my priorities are different. This world has taught me a very hard lesson, especially being in
such a fantasy type business. The lesson is called: Reality. It always gets in the way of our life plans. Just like anything,
material objects do not last forever, things like Hurricane Katrina could hit at any moment and you could lose
everything. Which brings me to the point I'm making. Yes, I agree, it's one of the most important days of your life and
yes, your photos will be passed on for generations and yes, I am honored to capture your day. But it's also not the only
day of your life. You may go on to a honeymoon, have babies, buy a house... who knows where your path in life will
lead you! It's exciting! So remember, I'm not here to put up fake salesmanship, I'm here to capture just one of the most
important days of your life. I am there to capture that smile on your grandma as she gives you love advice; that proud
face of your father as he lets his child go; those tears from your fiancé that don't happen that often; the silly dance
moves of your brother; those are the moments.
In the end, I hope you enjoy your photos but what I hope for the most is that your love for each other outlasts any
piece of paper, glossy or matte.
Understand what you truly want:
Of course I want you to hire me because if the shoe fits, wear it! But if not, why suffer? It sounds great, the price fits,
you like some of the photos... but would you rather have a more traditional approach or maybe an all candid approach?
If so, in what areas? All, some, none? How important are the traditionals to you? These are all good questions—before
your wedding! I tend to see a certain age bracket, 40 and above (not all but most) wanting a more traditional approach
in photography. That's OK to know what you want, but make sure you really know, listen and see what your
photographer offers; how they react to your thoughts and really take in their style. Some couples know right off with
no questions asked, 100% sure. On the other hand, if you aren't sure and it's not your taste, you may want to consider
other options. I don't care if it's your best friend offering to photograph your wedding. If you don't like it now, you
won't like it after. If you are open to new things, go ahead - try it, but don't expect all traditional shots when you hire
an artistic photojournalist! Do your research. Know what the term candid and traditionally posed really mean and don't
be afraid to ask what they mean to your photographer. Photographers usually cover all the traditional events but there
are different approaches, like, do you want the straight on ready for the photo look (if so, be aware and ready for the
camera) or do you want in the moment reality as it happened (if so, ignore me)? I've had some say ahead of time they
wanted all candids, then after their wedding, they asked to see all the traditional posed photos. I had very little to
offer. At another wedding, I did more traditional photos and got told to stop and only take candids. Those are mixed
signals and your photographer needs to know for sure what you want. And sometimes, it's just not a match no matter
how you picture it.
My photographer wish list:
- I wish there was always a parking spot saved for me in front at each wedding location so that I could just pull in
and get the limo or arrival shots in time. It would also make my unloading/loading of equipment easier. For some
reason everyone thinks I have no equipment and I just magically arrive - poof! - I wish I had a giant sign on my car that said "I'm with the wedding and I have to be there and on time, let me
through please!" - I wish every reception location would have a spot for my equipment cases and electrical outlets that worked!
More tips & tricks:
Always on-going, so more coming soon!
Be: Ready! Tips on taking a good photo: on the other side of the lens.
And planning ideas before and during the wedding...
And planning ideas before and during the wedding...
Please don't feel obligated that you have to do or use any of these, make it your day.
Whether you're a couple I am photographing or a photographer starting out looking for
tips, these may help everyone in planning and getting the results you want!
Whether you're a couple I am photographing or a photographer starting out looking for
tips, these may help everyone in planning and getting the results you want!
